A girl has shared a list of 12 rules for a night out she was given by her ex-boyfriend, and they make for worrying reading.
According to her caption, the guy in question actually - with no grasp of irony - then ended up cheating on her.
Zoe Scholefield shared a screenshot of the rules on Twitter, and the list reads like a textbook example of ‘toxic’, controlling behaviour.
1) Don’t dance like a slag like in Reflex. 2) Don’t get too drunk. 3) No boys and if anyone comes up to you and talks to you, you tell them you have a boyfriend. 4) Look after your drink at all time to make sure no one puts owt in it.
Rules 5-7 are about who she can and can’t hang out with, and her not being allowed to have anyone else in her room/not being allowed in anyone else’s room.
Funny how my ex sent me stuff like this then has the audacity to cheat on me😍😍 pic.twitter.com/nA28O86u4k— Zoe Scholefield (@ScholefieldZoe) August 9, 2019
The list then continues:
8) You let me know everything that happens and be ready to explain stories. 9) Always send me photos of front and back of what you are wearing so I can approve and say whether or not I think you should wear it. 10) Even when I’m asleep text me to tell me things so I can see in the morning. 11) If you find the time call me or [FaceTime] me, but let me know in advance. 12) If you can, [I] want a video of room before you sleep to prove no one else is there and you are off to sleep.
After the tweet went viral people were quick to point out how messed up the whole thing was:
— 🔴 Ryan (@ryaanm98) August 9, 2019
Wow, your ex sounds like the most toxic, dangerous sociopath alive.
— Mike P Williams (@Mike_P_Williams) August 10, 2019
Don't know who needs to hear this but if your partner lists even one of those things then you should show them the door. Control isn't affection or love
— Ashley Nivens #NL (@AshleyNivens) August 9, 2019
Emotional and verbal abuse can have short-term and long-lasting effects that are just as serious as the effects of physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse includes insults and attempts to isolate or control you.
Domestic violence bab, you had a lucky escape x
— HH. (@hollyhaless) August 9, 2019
If your partner ever sends you anything like this it should be an immediate red flag.