Dad slams school after leaflet tells teens to ‘suck toes’ rather than have sex

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A father has scolded his teenage daughter's school for "promoting fetishes" after she returned home with a leaflet that suggested toe-sucking as an alternative to sex. 

Carl Lawrence, from Tyldesley, said he was "bewildered and shocked" by the recommendations in the sexual health advice sheet that his 14-year-old Emma acquired from Shevington High School in Wigan.

The leaflet, titled '101 Ways To Show Someone You Love Them Without Having Sex', suggested teenagers could suck toes, nibble ears, or buy their partners underwear.

Carl also learned that children younger than Year Nine had been given the material - which was created by Spectrum Community Health CIC.

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The father said: "I understand children need to be made aware of the world, but should we really be promoting fetishes in Year Nine? I don't think so.

"The first thing that stood out was 'suck their toes'. That's quite niche.

"There were some [ideas] I was really shocked at. I don't think they've hit the target demographic. There is no way I think a 14-year-old should be reading this.

"When I spoke to my daughter I said 'you do know this isn't the only way to do things?'

"Surely they can just enjoy each other's company. They can go for walks, watch a film, go to Burger King, go to the park.

"There's tons of things she can do that don't involved getting someone's big toe in her mouth."

Carl has urged educators to proofread this type of material in the future and think carefully about what they distribute to students.

He said: "We should be saying there are alternatives to the physical side of things, but I don't think we should be pointing them in the direction of every other possibility.

"I think when it comes to children, as parents and responsible adults, we safeguard them. There's certain things kids should learn about through their life.

"Kids like to explore and find things out themselves."

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Emma commented: "Every Monday we have an hour lesson learning about things in the book.

"We were all looking at it laughing and we asked the teacher and she said 'you don't know if you like it until you try it'. I was shocked.

"We were all telling the other years and asking 'have you been told to suck people's toes?' They said yes. It was given out to one year above and one year below."

Spectrum Community Health CIC defended the leaflet's contents and said they helped young people make "safer choices".

A spokesperson said: "Spectrum's Relationships and Sex Education Programme provides information and support to young people throughout their high school journey, helping them to make safer choices.

"From Year Nine onwards we also introduce our RSE magazine, which is adapted every year in response to feedback from young people, parents and schools.

"The 101 Ways were created by teenagers and are referenced by Spectrum in the context of the classroom lessons they support."

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